5 Ways to Keep Parents Off Your Back and On Your Side!

Do you ever feel like parents are your enemy and not your ally? Do they second guess everything you do and often talk behind your back to other parents?

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There are 5 sure ways to get parents on your side and off your back, but all 5 need to be implemented.

1.  Believe in their child.

Of course you “believe” in their child, but do they know it? Often times I have to remind myself that the child is only __ years old, and they are just learning. A child has just started on this journey called life and still has much to learn. As adults we expect the children to act like adults. A teacher must communicate to a parent how much their child is loved and how much potential the child has.

2.  Acknowledge their shortcomings.

After ensuring the parents that you believe in their child, acknowledge how well you know their child by describing the child’s strengths and weaknesses. Praise them for their child’s strengths and give them a game plan for growth for their child’s weaknesses. Tell the parents how you will help strengthen the weaknesses, but give them ways as well to help their child at home. The parents need to know how the Lord can take their child’s weaknesses and use them for strengths in the years ahead.

3.  Communicate! Communicate! Communicate!

Continuously communicate to parents. Communicate the good, the bad, and the ugly! If you communicate the good; they are more receptive of the bad and ugly. Communicate your vision of the child’s preferred future. What do you see the child doing in the future having reached his or her full potential? The more you communicate with the parents, the more they trust you with their child.

4.  Commit to loving and helping the child reach his full potential.

In your heart commit to loving each child even if they are tough to love. Teachers believed in me and committed to loving me; they polished my many rough edges of childhood and youth. They challenged me to certain tasks and behaviors.

5.  Ensure a successful year!

The teacher that has a proper mindset and attitude toward a child can ensure success throughout the year. A teacher that is determined and committed to seeing a child succeed will do everything within his or her power to make sure the child succeeds. This mindset makes a teacher try new methods and assessments if needed. It also makes the teacher give of their time to personally invest in a student.

 It’s January (almost February)…ask yourself

  1. How well have I communicated in a loving way with every child’s parent this year ensuring them I would do my best so their child would succeed?
  2. Have I communicated with every child’s parent this year what I see the child doing in the future having reached his or her full potential?
  3. Have I really given every effort to helping each child succeed?

If not…it’s time for some homework!

Make it your homework this week to call parents. There are some parents in your classroom that really need to hear from you. They need help and encouragement. Be a blessing to them this week. This will keep them on your side and off your back!

What would you add to the list?  How often do you communicate, communicate, communicate? 

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Dr. Cathy Dotson serves as the Elementary Principal of Wilmington Christian Academy in Wilmington, NC. Her 21 years in Christian education and expertise in early childhood and elementary learning ideally equip her to share with FOCUS readers.

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  • Martha Earwood Reed

    Great reminders! A teacher can never communicate too much! I’m inspired to make some calls or send some encouraging emails this week!

    • Matt Ticzkus

      Thanks so much for commenting!. I wanted to follow up with you to see if you made those calls!

  • Marcia McConnell

    I am very thankful for texting which has made informing parents much easier for busy teachers.

    • Matt Ticzkus

      Texting is so easy and convenient! Marcia, thanks for commenting and welcome to the Focus Blog!

  • Anita Sedivy

    Often after teachers spend time updating class blogs, on-line grades, and weekly newsletters they feel they have communicated sufficiently. While those forms of communication are necessary and good, it is the personal communication that makes the big difference. An idea one of my teachers had this past year was to take a picture with her iPad of one student each day and send that picture with a short message to their parents. Sure there were days it couldn’t be fit in, but the positive PR was tremendous from the days it happened. Many other teachers used photo apps and created monthly slide shows for the families. These take precious time to create, but every parent loves to see their child enjoying school.

    • Matt Ticzkus

      Hi Anita! Thanks so much for your comments. I absolutely love the idea you shared. Personal communication is just so vital!